I have to dig this one up again. Sorry in advance for the rant, but it's a subject of strong emotions for me.
Calum wrote:
Learn some form of self-defense or carry a personal alarm with you all the time in case you get assaulted?
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If your self-defense course was worth its money, they will have given you a personal alarm that was included in the course fee, and after hitting a sandbag a couple of times with foot, knee, elbow, and palm (fist usually hurts yourself more than the opponent), spend the rest of the time (>50%) giving
psychological instructions (like, "carry personal alarms", "stay in populated areas", "address people directly instead of just screaming / calling for help", "attack to kill; chances are you're overestimating your power anyway"), before returning to the sandbag to check whether the advice sunk in.
What you meant was probably martial arts - as in, two / three times a week over a couple of years, mastering form, philosophy, tournament,
and SD techniques. "Self defense" is usually limited to, like, 10 times two hours on Saturdays spent hopping around in pyjamas.
SD is >75% mental. You have to be aware what will happen - the situation will escalate, and while your chances to avoid the crime will improve marginally, the chances of getting seriously hurt or killed improve significantly. You have to be aware that once you start kicking and punching and biting, all safeties are off. You have to "win" the situation no matter what, because you'd be in
deep trouble otherwise.
That's why I hold a deep grudge with those "instructors" that rip you off for, like, 150 bucks, and teach you some basics that will do three things for you:
- make you too self-assured in critical situations, getting you into trouble needlessly;
- make you assume a stance that gives away your intention to fight right away;
- are worth sh*t in a fighting situation where a frightened woman is up against a determined criminal.
SD fighting is the meanest, most vicious thing imaginable. It's not Jackie Chan, it's not Bruce Lee, it's (for women) embrace the man, give him a deep kiss, then bite off his tongue, claw out his eyes and kick him into the jewels that he's singing soprano for the rest of his life. Let him sue you because "she didn't say 'no' before she attacked me" or some bull like that. That will be done in court, not a side alley, which means you have won already.
Any SD instructor giving you stuff about his technique making you able to hold your ground against a bigger, heavier, stronger man is
lying, period. Those guys going around attacking people aren't couch potatoes either. I'd say >75% of all martial artists worldwide wouldn't survive 30 seconds against a mediocre boxer, because they never really got punched in the face in their whole MA "carreer".
Carry personal alarms, have a mobile handy that will dial 911 (or 110 or whatever emergency number your country provides) on one keypress, know where people are. If you think that's "weak" and that your SD / MA skills will protect you, get a different instructor that isn't feeding you dangerous delusions.
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Sorry for the rant. I won't bore you with the personal experiences that made me feel this strongly about the subject, but if you are in any position to consider taking SD courses, make sure you pick the right one. The wrong ones make rape victims into rape & manslaughter victims.